Holly and Heather's Helping Hands

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Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Remember 9/11

As New Yorkers, we will always remember thirteen years ago on this day as one of the most horrific days in the history of our country, certainly in our lifetime. Our children were babies then and raising them in a post 9/11 world is sobering at times. Although they don’t remember the tragedies that occurred that day, we try to educate them as best as we can without instilling fear that this world can sometimes be a scary place.

What is worth remembering and talking about, we think, is the memory of all those who perished on this day and the resolve of all New Yorkers to come together and help one another in a time of crisis. While it is still difficult to watch the many documentaries that will air on television today, talking about the goodness in every day, average people in our communities and those who sacrificed so much on that day is important.  Our thoughts and prayers go out to all of those families who lost precious loved ones that day.

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Doing Something Right!

As parents of teenagers we are in the last stage of the formative years, continuing to impart our wisdom and guiding them in the right direction. We don’t think it ever really ends, even as adults we still talk to our parents about life, problem solving, sharing the good and the hurts.

Recently one of our kids received accolades on a pretty important exam that was taken and as a result a whole world of amazing opportunities has opened up.  This teenager is extremely smart (as are all of our kids, love you guys!) and we would like to partly attribute it to “doing something right” as parents.  So often when our kids have difficulties or troubles the first thing we think is “did I do something wrong?”  But in this instance it was “how did they get so smart, what did we do right?”  The answer is a combination of many things, but one of the most important is early childhood decisions.  We are giving ourselves a pat on the back for not allowing our children to watch any television or look at a screen, in this case until age 3 (with the others we were not as diligent, though we did make it thru the first year or two!).  Another thing we both did was a lot of reading…reading, reading, reading! A story at lunch, a book every night & plenty of visits to the library. Also successful: plenty of outdoor time.  Good old fresh air running around the yard or playing in the park.

Of course many things later in life also contributed along the way towards education but we tried very hard when our kids were little, especially in those very early formative years when the brain is growing and developing so rapidly, to do right by them.  It was hard sometimes, the days can be so long but remember, the years are short.  And once they’re gone you’ve missed that crucial period of time when they’re learning, growing and bonding.

Of course our number one goal is always for our kids to be happy and healthy, why not give them a good educational start to their future too!

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Celebrate Labor Day!

This coming Monday is Labor Day and we hope everyone can celebrate and enjoy! Sometimes this holiday feels more like New Year’s day for us. It is a time for transition but before those big changes, we rest from our labors and relax. How will you celebrate?

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Take It One Day At A Time

Sometimes when we think about the future, it can really keep us off-balance. Not always, just sometimes. We have written before about staying present and enjoying the moment. But there are times we need to look ahead and plan for the future. And there are times in our lives when we need to look back and appreciate how we’ve grown, savor memories or learn from mistakes. It’s a juggling act of sorts: taking life one day at a time while honoring your past and preparing for the future.

For us right now, we have children changing schools, family members changing jobs and one of us is thinking about moving. With these changes comes a fair amount of uncertainty about what the future holds and how our lives will be different. Change is difficult even when it is change for the better. When the tenuous feelings come, it helps us to remember to take it one day at a time. Planning for the future in all aspects of our lives can be difficult and sometimes we have to honor life’s fragility and spontaneity. Easy to say, hard to do…

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Appreciate Your Children!

Our kids are growing so fast and while we are in the thick of raising them, sometimes it’s easy to lose perspective of the time we have together at home while they are young.  We realize that soon they will be old enough to fly the coop and begin their lives as adults.  We love to say – the days are long but the years are short – this was especially true when they were infants!  But now that they’re older, we try not to get caught up in the minutia of adolescence but rather enjoy their company and appreciate every moment.  It’s a delicate balance – we are still imparting our wisdom and trying hard to raise good, honest, productive members of society.  Teaching them life lessons and worrying about their education, health and happiness – it’s a lot of work!  Spend some quality time with your kids.  Have lunch together or play a game.  Listen to what they have to say and appreciate them for who they are.  They are our greatest gifts!


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