Holly & Heather’s Handy Hint: Be True To Yourself
Shakespeare said, “To thine own self be true!” On that thought, have you ever found yourself in a negative situation where you didn’t know how to respond or react? It’s happened to all of us at one point or another; a comment catches us off guard, an uncomfortable realization beyond our control. In the moment, we may fall silent, not sure what to do or say. But in time, a response begins to formulate.
Many thoughts may come as our response is brewing: defensiveness, anger, hurt, fear, surprise…sometimes they are hard to sort out. And as our mother would occasionally say, “Sometimes silence is an answer.” But things can get tricky when you are listening to voices that don’t seem to ring true for you, who you are and what you believe in. And those voices can come from within or from well-intentioned friends or family members. For example, if you have been wronged, it is right to feel hurt or betrayed and want to counter that wrong with an admonishment. But if it is not within your heart to mirror back those upset feelings, then you probably shouldn’t.
We find that waiting, instead of instantly reacting, will give you time to sort through your feelings. When all of those immediate emotions subside, a clear thought will surface, one that is true to who you are. And then you will know how to be, what to say, how to act. And you will feel good about your response because it has come from within you and not from your situation.