Holly and Heather's Helping Hands

Inspirational Heartfelt Hints

Month: May, 2014

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Give Thanks

Memorial Day was last Monday and we would like to give thanks to all of those men and women who serve our country. We are blessed with freedoms here in America and are so thankful for your service to our nation.

This got us to thinking about all that we have to be thankful for in life.  When you wake up and take a breath, realize it is another day to say I love you to someone.  There are so many things to be grateful for, just take a look around. If the sun is shining, plants and veggies are growing; if it’s raining, they are taking a drink!  It’s a mind-set, being thankful alters how you look at the world and at others. Even when you are down, remember that sometimes prayers are answered in unexpected ways or years after they are asked.

Give thanks for your blessings and for the ability to hope for a grateful heart and peace to all people.

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Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Compare and Despair

Comparing yourself to others….this is a hard thing not to do.  Comparing lifestyles, houses, how your children are behaving, jobs. Sometimes if we see a great dress on someone, we wonder what it would look like on us. If someone wins the lottery, we compare how we would spend the money and either agree or disagree with what the actual winner did.

Being twins, we have been scrutinized and compared with each other from the time we were born. “This one’s shorter, this one’s thinner, this one has a beauty mark”…it seemed that people were always trying to figure out how to tell us apart. Growing up like that, it’s hard to let the comparison mind-set go! But sometimes, comparing can mean something is better than something else. Is it better if one of us is told to have longer hair, or to be smarter?  It’s difficult not to jump to assumptions that you are inferior.  Even today and living apart, we often find ourselves comparing aspects of our lives to others or to each other.  And it’s wrong! It can lead to jealousy and hosts of untold negative thoughts.

Comparing your life, looks, wealth, anything can lead to despair or something worse: judgment.  When you look at someone else and think, “Grateful I’m not _____” you are putting down another which has the effect of temporarily making you feel better about yourself.  The long-term effect is that you can think you are better than others and this is the opposite of living an honest, humble life.

Being thankful for what we have, trying to enjoy each and every day and finding meaning in the love of our family and friends is what we strive to do.  And we hope you do too 🙂

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Honesty

 

We believe in living an honest life.  Along those lines, do you think it’s ok for people to tell little lies to cover up mistakes they made or to avoid hurting someone’s feelings?  What about omission – not telling a lie but not speaking the truth either. It is hard to live in the world and be honest every second of the day.  You have to take into account circumstances, outcomes, people’s feelings.  Are you just hurting yourself, say for example, a student cheating on a test and not really learning?  Are you sparing someone else’s feelings by not telling them an outfit looks unflattering?  Or are you hurting someone else by doing or seeing something that hurt another person and not saying anything about it?

We say, own up to your mistakes if they are hurting others.  Many lies can eventually destroy a relationship.  Most people want the truth and the opportunity to hear an “I’m sorry”.  Forgiveness lies within our hearts and when trust gets broken people need time to heal and sometimes that can only begin with honesty.  Ultimately, at the end of the day, you have to live with yourself.  Try to live honestly.

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Happy Mother’s Day!

To all of our “mom” readers, family & friends:

We wish you a very Happy Mother’s Day! Whether you are with your moms today or just thinking about them, always remember they have one of the hardest jobs in the world. We appreciate all of the hard work you do in raising your children.  To our own mom, you are the best!  We thank you for all of your love, guidance, support, patience, teaching, listening… the list is endless! We love you!!!

Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Distractions, Distractions

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone who just wasn’t paying attention to you? Here you are, pouring your heart out, and when you are done there is silence on the other end of the conversation. This can feel more than frustrating. It is as if that person doesn’t care about you in that instant; as if what you are talking about has no value.

We’re sure many of you have had that experience as well, both as a talker and a listener. We all get distracted from time to time.  While maybe the listener (or non-listener) may not have meant to hurt the feelings of the one who was sharing, distraction is often the culprit of these occasions. So what can we do about this?

In keeping with the theme of last week’s blog – stay present. When the phone rings, if you don’t have the time or energy to focus your attention on the speaker, don’t answer it. If you do answer and find yourself becoming distracted, which happens – especially if you have children at home, politely tell the speaker that you are sorry, this isn’t a good time to chat right now and then call them back when you are free. In this age of technology, it is nearly impossible to miss a call, text or email. Those messages will be there waiting for you. The human face or voice should always command our attention well before any piece of technology unless a true emergency arises.

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