Holly & Heather’s Helpful Hint: Retain What Is Necessary
As we are continuing on this mindful journey (or trying our best – it is hard!) a counter thought to last week’s blog arose. While it is important to let go of the guilt it is also important to hold on to what is necessary. We may not think too much of keeping up with so many activities, hobbies or even some relationships but discerning what to keep up with and why is necessary.
Let’s take, for example, a relationship with an old friend. You may not see this person often, or speak with them regularly, but there is a shared past that you may feel you’d like to maintain with a present relationship. Try this experiment (we have): Keep up the communication as much as you can or want to. Call, write, text, email or visit. If you find that your outreaching is reciprocated, great! The relationship is probably just as important to your friend as it is to you. If, however, your friend does not respond to your attempts at communication and you feel like, “The ball has been in their court” for quite some time, you may come to realize that you will treasure the past in a different way (through pictures, videos, memories, etc.)
Retaining the necessary things in your life may be social relationships, physical objects, whatever you deem the most important to you. Making the discernment between what you need to live a happy, healthy life and what you don’t can bring you much peace.