Holly and Heather’s Helpful Hint: Remember a Favorite
We thought it’d be fun every once in a while to do a “retro” blog – re-publish an oldie but goodie. Something we wrote years ago but found either extremely helpful, cathartic or inspiring. So here is a blog from July 19, 2012 titled “People Just Want To Be Heard and Acknowledged”:
That title is our new mantra when something is bothering us. Inevitably, there will be times in life when you will have an issue with something. Whether there’s a conflict with your spouse or a friend, if it’s something you feel strongly about, it deserves an important conversation. We like those closest to us to see our point of view. Arguing is never fun but sometimes necessary to work out problems that come up from time to time. We’re not talking about little annoyances that you can just let go but bigger issues that are really important to you. Bottling up your feelings with those closest in your life can lead to frustration and usually, after a while, a big blow up. What we’ve found is that, in general, when we are discussing a problem, we just want to be heard and acknowledged. Ever listen to someone go on and on about something and when you try to help they want nothing to do with your advice? They just want you to listen. A lot of times you feel better when you just vent whatever it is that is bothering you, even if there is no real solution. Just having your spouse, for example, really hear you and acknowledge that you’re upset about something can make all the difference. What we really crave is the knowledge that we’re being heard and that our feelings matter. Next time an issue comes up and you are speaking to someone about it, try listening, making eye contact and sympathizing with the person that is upset. It really does help to know that those closest to you care when you have a problem.
* A funny side note: Our uncle commented on this blog back then – “Huh, what…I’m sorry were you saying something?” He was always cracking us up! Rest in peace Uncle Peter, we miss you.